The messenger plus has enabled me to discover that I've been blocked off someone's contact list.I did actually suspect that their persistent offline status was starting to look suspicious;then I upgraded my messenger and discovered the ugly truth..Has anyone been shunned in such a way, and did they seek vengeance????
Posted by Fionnula the Cooler (Member # 453) on :
WHAT?
They can't do that! Christ. This is going to upset lots of people.
/Fionnula sheepishly unblocks brother, friends, extended family members & internet acquaintances.
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
OHH yes indeeeed, the truth is out there.....
Posted by kovacs (Member # 28) on :
How do you get Messenger Plus, I fancy it.
Posted by London (Member # 29) on :
You can't get it for Macs! How is that fair?
Posted by Fionnula the Cooler (Member # 453) on :
But Honey. The thing is. Sometimes it's the only way. You'd pop up in the corner of the screen and she'd feel you eagering for her to initiate conversation and ... ugh. What was there to say? Your novelty had worn off weeks ago. You can't say she didn't try. All those conversations she hauled into the text window from stuttering fingertips. Remember those? Conversations that invariably spluttered and died after trading four, five sentences apiece. She just didn't know what to say. You must understand. Sometimes it's just so much easier. To trace your finger down the tracker pad. A farewell stroke. Before tapping Block.
Posted by Fionnula the Cooler (Member # 453) on :
quote:Originally posted by kovacs: How do you get Messenger Plus, I fancy it.
I think it might be this.
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
I think u can loggon to any any search engine ; type in "Messenger PLus" and hey presto! Download it...and then the truth shall be revealed! Lots of new options on there too....Almost seems like a godamm tracking device..
Posted by Bamba (Member # 330) on :
Be very careful with this, it comes bundled with the infamous Lop spyware which is pretty vicious stuff. If you do install it make very sure you opt out of that during installation.
Posted by Bamba (Member # 330) on :
In fact, having just read around a bit more about this, I'm now not even 100% convinced that opting out of the spyware during installation is completely safe. I'd stay away from it to be honest.
Posted by kovacs (Member # 28) on :
It says it has no spyware, just "sponsor's" software that you can opt out of.
Posted by Physic (Member # 195) on :
In the interests of discovering whether it is a threat (and finding out whether anyone has blocked me, though I've not found out how yet) I've installed it and run both Adaware and Spybot, neither found anything to report, it hasn't added anything to the applications which run at startup, and I haven't noticed anything untoward to be honest.
So how do I find out if anyone has blocked me?
Posted by MiscellaneousFiles (Member # 60) on :
I've been using Messenger Plus for about a year and I have to say that its most useful feature is the assignable Boss Protection shortcut. This allows you to configure a keyboard shortcut which will hide all messenger windows, as well as the telltale system tray icon. You can also disable the advertising banner at the bottom of the main messenger window - although this feature will sadly be removed for the MSN Messenger v7.0 update (* beta).
Posted by jonesy999 (Member # 5) on :
What kind of devilry is this? Everyone on my contact list is blocked. I only unblock individuals if I have time and something I need to say.
This is fucking gash, man. MSN without blocking feels like an open phone line to everyone you know.
"Hi Jonesy, how's it going?" "Erm, I'm only getting up for a piss. Please hang up."
[ 14.12.2004, 04:47: Message edited by: jonesy999 ]
Posted by Bailey (Member # 261) on :
I've got everyone blocked as well, but does anyone really care if they find out someone else has blocked them?
Posted by MiscellaneousFiles (Member # 60) on :
Bitch.
Posted by Astromariner (Member # 446) on :
oh! So that's why everyone on my contacts list appears to be offline every time I log on. I thought I was just unlucky. Posted by ben (Member # 13) on :
I thought it had been a case of poetic justice for my blocking of a forette who was always on whenever I went online - suspected I'd been the victim of death by messenge.
Posted by Bailey (Member # 261) on :
I deleted lots of people as well, but they deserved it. </bitch>
Posted by ben (Member # 13) on :
*GASP* Posted by Bailey (Member # 261) on :
quote:Originally posted by ben: *GASP*
Oh, I deleted you as well Ben, because you were never online, ever. Not because I thought you deserved to be deleted.
Posted by ben (Member # 13) on :
I dunno - I find messenging a bit unsatisfying as a means of communication. I can't type fast enough to maintain any kind of flow. Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
it hasn't added anything to the applications which run at startup, and I haven't noticed anything untoward to be honest.
So how do I find out if anyone has blocked me?
I figured this out when clicking through thier varios options. THere's one where u can "personalize alerts" meaning u can have a special sound played whenever of on yr contacts loggs on, kind of kind of like the option you have on cell phones, a different ring for each caller, on the messenger plus you can personnalize the default alert whenever the contact - 1.disconnects - 2.changes his/her status to busy or away - 3.changes his/her screen name - 4.or simply loggs on!!! If you've been blocked by anyone, the 4th option is unavaible to you! That's how I found about me having been blocked::: I must admit that i've only ever blocked vague internet aquaintances , and not "real people" as such, flesh 'n blood like. The person who blocked me happened to be an ex" so I suppose when exes are involved its blocking galore. But if u really want someone off yr contact list, why just block them? and not delete them totally?? Does this mean that their is still light under the blockage tunnel?
Posted by Uber Trick (Member # 456) on :
quote:Originally posted by Honey: the truth is out there.....
interesting... *makes steeple with fingers, tries to look cryptic*
I rarely use messenger anymore, I don't mind one on one conversations that much but I find multiways are a massive headfuck. Also through lack of accessing old redundant hottmale accounts due to new sexy shiny gmail I lost two of my old msn addresses.*
*this excuse would also work if you were trying to pretend that you hadn't blocked virtually everyone you know. Posted by Fionnula the Cooler (Member # 453) on :
What's this rubbish about "personalize alerts"? I can find no such option! I can assign sounds to the signing-in and -out of contacts, but not their changing of status or screen name. Where am I supposed to look, Honey? Trying to decipher your posts has broken my eyes. Are you really a student, by the way? Are you the reason I lost all faith in university?
Posted by Physic (Member # 195) on :
quote:Originally posted by Honey: if u really want someone off yr contact list, why just block them? and not delete them totally??
Deleting someone from your contact list just stops you seeing when they log on, it doesn't stop them seeing when you log on. So removing someone from your contact list in the hope that if you can't see them they won't see you, is rather reminiscent of an ostrich burying its head in the sand in effect.
Posted by Ringo (Member # 47) on :
quote:Originally posted by Honey: If you've been blocked by anyone, the 4th option is unavaible to you!
You spanner.
The option's unavailable if you've already set it so that you get a notification whenever anyone signs in.
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
quote:
mmhh interesting... Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
SO how do you operate the 4th option then????
Posted by kovacs (Member # 28) on :
Honey what is your email, I will download MSN just to talk to you.
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
Wotchu torkin 'bout Kovacs?
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
ok, KOvacs i've just understood, a bit slow this morning.. hanifa12@hotmail.com Posted by Travelling Canadian (Member # 491) on :
I've seen posts on other boards where people wondered if you could tell when you were blocked. I never could understand why. I mean, why would you want to sit there, scrolling through your contacts to see who's blocked you? I would think it would just make for bad feelings all around. Like Uber, I can't stand trying to carry on a bunch of conversations at once. I so rarely log onto Messenger any more because of that. Even when I'm set to 'busy' or 'away' there are certain people who insist on butting in to say hello. There was one girl in particular who I finally blocked, that would do this all the time. When I would try to tell her that I was busy talking to someone, she'd do the guilt trip thing: "Oh, so sorry to bother you, I'm sure the other person is much more important. Talk to me as soon as you're done with them." I hate that. Then I feel obligated to talk to her afterwards, or feel guilty if I don't. I've often had to pretend that I got disconnected. Like Fionula said, eventually you run out of things to say. Those stilted, say-nothing conversations are just a waste of time. I totally agree with jonesy:
quote:What kind of devilry is this? Everyone on my contact list is blocked. I only unblock individuals if I have time and something I need to say. This is fucking gash, man. MSN without blocking feels like an open phone line to everyone you know. "Hi Jonesy, how's it going?" "Erm, I'm only getting up for a piss. Please hang up."
It's like people watching through your window to see if you're home. If I want to close my curtains, or block certain people, I don't think they need to be questioning why.
Posted by kovacs (Member # 28) on :
i used to talk to some bint who would say when she said goodbye, as some kind of mega-artificial cover-all-bases good wishes formula
"if you are going to work have a good day at work and dont work too hard! if youre at home, have a good day off!"
sometimes i would lie to get some peace and go "oh hold on phone is ringing"
she would reply undaunted with her inane fake good-will "whoever it is on the phone, enjoy them!"
what a fucking clown can you blame me that i blocked and deleted her. if you are TOO NICE it becomes evil
Posted by Abby (Member # 582) on :
I knew this mad girl who had a livejournal linked to her homepage or something so she could log people who looked at it, and she became totally obsessed by trying to find out who had been looking at her LJ and went even more mad. Which is a bit releavent to the conversation...a bit. Ahem.
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
I basically like the messenger coz it helps me avoid running up those international phone bills, as some mates are sitting in different time zones when i logg on, we can sit there 'n have a 'chat' without having to worry too much about bill...
Posted by Bamba (Member # 330) on :
quote:Originally posted by Honey: I basically like the messenger coz it helps me avoid running up those international phone bills, as some mates are sitting in different time zones when i logg on, we can sit there 'n have a 'chat' without having to worry too much about bill...
Perhaps then Skypewould be useful to you?
Posted by Honey (Member # 182) on :
Yes, i have heard of skype, how exactly does that work???Isnt it a bit like activating the audio-conversation option on msn?
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